When Love Is Blind gives us drama, we expect it to be about emotional betrayals, mismatched love languages, or someone secretly engaged (again). What we don’t expect? A full-blown legal conversation about prenuptial agreements between pod reveals and dates on the beach.
But that’s precisely what happened! Virginia brought up the idea of a prenup with her fiance, Devin. Instead of blowing up to a Jerry-Springler-level dispute, it was one of the more grounded and mature conversations we’ve seen on reality TV. So, let’s dive in and analyze the conversation, what worked and didn’t, and what it tells us about modern relationships.
The scene: Bringing up the “P” word
In a refreshingly straightforward manner, Virginia brings up the idea of a prenup (and has even printed it out!). For a reality TV show built on whirlwind romances and emotional rollercoasters, this moment was almost jarringly mature and… well, just real. While Virginia appears slightly nervous, sliding over the prenup, she tries to lighten the situation with some humor (“Feed you a really good meal and then slide it over”). This is all an authentic take on how simple (and still uncomfortable) the conversation can be.
Devin is clearly still thoughtful about the whole idea and keeps an open mind. Yes, he clearly states he still would like to read it over. Yes, he asks questions that aren’t fun to answer (“So, to someone who says, ‘Why do you need a prenup…’”). He takes some time to think about it and clearly communicates that plan to Virginia.
After consulting with his attorney and trusted people in his life (hi, Devin’s mom), he returns to a discussion with Virginia: “I’m willing to sign it.”
What went well about this conversation
Not all prenup conversations will go exactly like this, but let’s focus on what went really well with Virginia and Devin here.
The timing
Both conversations about the prenup were at home when both partners were calm (or as non-stressed as possible as they planned for a wedding after several weeks of knowing each other). The conversations were done in a private, quiet space that allowed them to discuss as much as needed. And, yes, ignore that they did have camera people in their space, so just think of how much more comfortable they would have been without that!
More than one conversation
They gave each other time. Virginia didn’t force Devin to make a choice right away. They validated each other and the importance of collaboration by giving each other the gift of time.
Prep work
It’s clear Virginia had done some thinking and preparation. In printing out a draft of the prenup, she took some of the legwork out of the process for Devin so he could take the time to process and review the prenup.
Embrace the awkwardness
This wasn’t a fairy tale moment where both sides excitedly embraced the idea of the prenup. Nope, it had its moments when you almost wanted to look away, but Virginia and Devin kept at it! They didn’t let that stop them from initiating the conversation, asking questions, and discussing it further.
Framing
It’s slight, but Devin did a lovely job of framing his questions in a way that helped minimize Virginia’s response with defensiveness. When he asked why the couple would get a prenup if they expected to remain together, he framed it as a question they, as a team, were likely to get from other people in their lives. Framing the question in this way instead of putting pressure on Virgina to explain to him why she wanted one is a small but powerful way to have an honest, effective discussion. Virginia also did a lovely job of framing the prenup as a practical tool that benefitted both partners and that it had nothing to do with how she felt about Devin or the relationship.
Don’t Wait
Yes, Virginia and Devin’s timeline was much faster than most. But Virginia didn’t avoid the conversation or postpone it. Many couples avoid discussing prenups because they worry it will cause conflict. Ironically, this avoidance often leads to more conflict down the road. By bringing it up early, Virginia ensured that they could talk about it openly with as much time as possible.
Humor
Virginia leaned into the humor. It helped them connect through a slightly uncomfortable moment. The key is for it to feel still authentic and to know when to pause; we want to help lighten the mood, not for it to completely distract from the primary purpose of the conversation.
Where there is room for growth
What areas could have really brought the conversation to the next level? Well:
Validation
Don’t underestimate the power of validation. Where could Virginia or Devin have validated each other more? During the discussion about why the couple would want a prenup, Devin could have validated feelings that may arise for Virginia when her future mother-in-law was brought into the process. Speaking of…
Check-in
Virgina and Devin could have benefitted from asking each other about their feelings in their discussions. “How are you feeling?” “How did that land for you?” “What feelings are coming up for you?” Remember, feelings are different than thoughts. Creating space and intentionally checking in about each other’s emotional experiences can strengthen your connection, give you more insight into where each partner is at, and create opportunities to validate and support each other.
Be thoughtful about 3rd parties
It’s helpful to have people you trust and experts (lawyers, financial advisors, therapists) weigh in on the prenup or situation. Be thoughtful about who you bring in, when, and how you do so. It seemed like Virginia was surprised by Devin having his mother review the prenup. While it worked out well for this couple (Devin felt supported, and his mother was able to change her perspective on the situation), consider how this can impact your future spouse and family member’s relationship. Consider letting your partner know who you may be bringing into the process, ask them how they feel about it, and be open to their feelings and concerns.
Why prenups sometimes still have a stigma for some people
Prenuptial agreements tend to stir up strong emotional reactions despite being a straightforward legal tool. Some people see them as unromantic, a sign that one partner is planning for failure before the marriage even begins. Others (and growing in numbers!) view them as a smart, proactive way to protect both parties. And, heck, even romantic, if you’re asking James Sexton!
At the core of this divide is the fact that money is deeply emotional, even in the best relationships. A prenuptial agreement forces couples to have honest conversations about financial values, assets, and worst-case scenarios—topics many would rather avoid altogether. A prenup, at its best, brings these conversations to the surface before they become a problem.
What this says about modern relationships
If a prenup conversation on Love Is Blind doesn’t immediately dissolve into chaos, that tells us about how relationships evolve.
For many, especially in Western cultures, marriage has been treated as an emotional institution first and a legal contract second. But today, more couples are realizing that love and practicality aren’t mutually exclusive. You can be wildly in love and want to have clear financial agreements and still win together.
This shift is significant given that financial stress is one of the top reasons marriages end in divorce. A prenup doesn’t just protect your assets; it (with good intentions) forces couples to talk about the kind of financial relationship they want to build.
People are also getting married later, so they’re coming into a marriage with more assets, debt, or business ventures of their own. Unlike previous generations, where young couples built financial lives together from scratch, many modern couples blend already established finances. In this context, a prenup isn’t about anticipating divorce—it’s about acknowledging reality.
Final thoughts on Devin and Virginia’s prenup convo
For all the over-the-top drama that reality dating shows thrive on, sometimes they accidentally stumble into a genuinely insightful moment. Virginia and Devin’s prenup conversation was one of those moments. It showed a realistic example of a prenup conversation; it doesn’t have to be exhaustive, combative, or even too touchy-feely. Most importantly, it doesn’t have to be about a lack of trust and doesn’t mean a couple is doomed.
The ability to have these conversations openly and with mutual respect? That’s the kind of thing that actually strengthens relationships in the long run. And in the world of Love Is Blind, that’s as close to a fairytale ending as it gets.
Dr. Vivian Oberling is a licensed clinical psychologist with degrees from UCLA, Harvard, and Stanford. In her private telehealth practice, she works with adults navigating anxiety, identity shifts, and relationship dynamics—whether they’re dating, partnered, or parenting. She also provides executive coaching and behavioral health advisory support to tech startups and legal tools reshaping how we think about love, marriage, and psychological safety. Dr. Oberling combines 10+ years of clinical expertise with modern, real-world insight to help people move through uncertainty with clarity and connection.
0 Comments