Importance of Financial Transparency With your Partner- How a Prenup Can Help

Sep 29, 2022 | California Prenuptial Agreements, Finances, Relationships

Despite how much you love your partner, having a financial talk is not exactly fun. There are quite a few reasons why you might be nervous to discuss finances with your partner. Perhaps there’s an “elephant in the room” on the topic of debt, spending, or differences in income levels. Or maybe you simply feel uncomfortable talking about the topic. Even if your relationship has no financial hurdles, talking about money can be difficult and uncomfortable.

The Reality of Financial Transparency

Due to its uncomfortable nature, too many couples fail at financial transparency. According to a Qualtrics survey, 45% of recently married couples reported they didn’t discuss their debt before marriage. Not to mention, financial disagreements are often a cause of divorce for many couples. A 2012 study reported that 40% of participants stated their reason for divorce was related to how their spouse handled money.

Don’t let this happen to you and your partner! Start your marriage off with financial transparency. Financial transparency includes being open and honest with your partner about financial matters. Though you may be concerned about discussing finances with your partner, the process of sharing and being truthful can actually set you and your partner up for financial success.

By having the financial discussions required to create a prenup, you and your partner get everything out on the table way before you even get married. Ultimately, this ends up benefiting both parties in the relationship and can pave the way for a financially successful marriage!

Importance of the “Talk” and How Prenups Force It

While having a conversation with your partner may seem daunting, it’s especially important. Not only is having the discussion important but having it before you get married is even more important. Before you join forces as one under the law, you and your soon-to-be spouse need to get on the same page. This includes discussing how you’ll manage your finances and creating boundaries for spending, debt, and more. 

For some couples, creating a prenuptial agreement may be a good idea based on your “talk” about finances. A prenup is a pre-marital agreement where both parties agree to terms that you’ll both abide by in the event of a divorce. While many couples choose to create a prenuptial agreement to protect their assets, it can also be used as an excellent financial planning tool.

An important part of a prenup, known as financial disclosure, requires that both partners in a relationship must disclose all of their assets. This requires honesty and transparency from both partners. During the creation of a prenuptial agreement, you and your partner can create a “financial schedule” that basically discloses each of your assets. This includes real estate, income, investments, bank accounts, and other financial assets. In some states, if you aren’t honest about all of your assets, your prenup might even be deemed invalid by the courts.

Financial Backgrounds

Throughout your financial discussions, it is also important to keep an open mind. Many financial behaviors we learn are often based on how we grew up and the examples our parents set for us. Differences in economic status or class can also alter someone’s beliefs when it comes to money. Be mindful not to pass judgment as your partner explains their financial background.

Understanding your partner’s financial background can help you better understand their decision-making and vice versa. Then, you can find a way to meet in the middle to find a spending and saving plan that works for both of you.

Financial Goals

Each partner should identify their individual financial goals and the steps or actions needed to achieve them. With that in mind, you and your partner can then discuss how to integrate these goals into a set of common, or shared goals.

Discussing short and long-term goals as a couple can give you hope and set goal posts to achieve. Perhaps this includes a savings plan or account for your future children, or starting an investment account together. Some examples of financial goals include:

  • Plans to pay off student debt/loans
  • Plans to save for future expenses
  • Retirement plans
  • Health Care plans
  • Travel and Vacation spending
  • Recreational Spending

Recreational Spending

Arguments surrounding recreational spending can often be problematic for couples. Advertisements surround us everywhere we go, left and right. From YouTube ads to TikTok targeted ads, it can be difficult to curtail recreational spending. While spending some money on things you love is a great form of self-care, overspending is easy. The world of online shopping certainly doesn’t make it easy to practice good spending habits.

Creating a monthly budget allowance for each partner can help to curtail excessive recreational spending. Each partner can allocate their “allowance” on spending that brings them joy. This could be buying drinks at the bar on a Friday night or that new TikTok trending makeup item. 

You and your partner can come up with a comfortable “extra” spending amount that works for your budget. In turn, you’ll experience fewer arguments when that monthly credit card bill comes each month. In addition, it helps encourage financial transparency from both partners in a relationship.

Getting On the Same Page

A discussion surrounding financial transparency should include an overview of several financial matters. To begin with, you and your partner should be open and upfront about existing debt and create a plan together to manage it. This can be a touchy subject, however, approaching it as a team can bring you and your partner closer together. Other financial matters to discuss include income, debt, investments, and more.

In these financial discussions, you and your partner may wish to come up with a plan for joining incomes. Some couples wish to create a prenup to detail each person’s individual assets and debts before marriage, to keep them separate from one another. This can help protect you if your partner enters into a marriage with a large amount of debt. 

Honesty Matters

No matter what your financial situation or goals entail, use these financial discussions as a chance to plan for the future. If you’re not sure how to start a financial conversation, start with honesty! Approach your financial discussion at a time when you and your partner are comfortable and relaxed. When it comes to having difficult conversations, timing is everything.

Also, it is important to remember that these conversations don’t always need to be uncomfortable. Dreaming of a future with your spouse and growing old together can be quite romantic too. Despite what the bad rap surrounding prenups say, we think creating a prenup can be quite romantic.

Move Towards an Honest Relationship

Each couple’s financial goals and vision will differ. However, the purpose of this conversation is for both of you to get on the same page. As such, you owe it to yourself to be open and honest. Many relationships suffer from dishonesty. Lying can also spiral out of control quickly, causing a major divide between you and your partner. 

Even if you’re embarrassed about your financial situation or debt accumulation, remaining honest with your partner is certainly the best policy. Use these tips to set the tone for a financially successful and honest relationship. To learn more about prenuptial agreements and how they can help couples in their goals of being transparent with their finances, visit!

You are writing your life story. Get on the same page with a prenup. For love that lasts a lifetime, preparation is key. Safeguard your shared tomorrows, starting today.
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