Can I Get Out Of My Prenup If I Change My Mind?

Jul 25, 2023 | Prenuptial Agreements

If you are planning on getting a prenup or already have one, you may wonder if you can “get out of it” somehow at some point? The answer is yes… with stipulations. The number one way to “cancel” your prenup is through revocation. This requires BOTH spouses to want to cancel the prenup, though. The next option would be an amendment, which changes only certain terms of the agreement. Again, both spouses need to agree to this. Finally, your last option is to challenge the prenup, which you’ll need to do during a divorce. It’s not ideal because challenging a prenup is expensive, timely, and not guaranteed to work. Let’s dive into some more details on how to “cancel” your prenup.


What happens if I change my mind… Can I “cancel” my prenup? 

Technically there is only one way to get out of a prenup, and that’s through revocation. Revocation is a fancy way of saying you want to cancel a contract. You and your partner can agree to revoke the prenup…as long as you both agree on it. You cannot have a one-way revocation. The requirements of revocation can vary from state to state as to what is required for a valid revocation. This can be relatively cheap and pain free as long as you and your partner can both agree to it. 

If your partner doesn’t want to completely revoke the prenup but maybe will agree to changing SOME of the terms, then this would be considered an amendment to the original prenup. This is also possible in most states, but make sure to check in with your state laws. Again, each state will dictate what is required of a valid amendment. For example, some states may require that you get your amendment notarized and witnessed, while others may not.

There is a less ideal way to get out of a prenup and that’s through challenging the prenup in a divorce. For this option, you will need to file for divorce and then file a complaint with the court that the prenup is invalid and/or unenforceable. Plus, you’re not even guaranteed to have the prenup thrown out if you challenge it. You will need to go through the court process and have a judge evaluate the situation and decide whether or not it should be thrown out. 

Revocation (i.e., canceling your prenup)

Revoking a prenuptial agreement is a legal process that requires careful consideration and adherence to your state’s legal requirements. While prenuptial agreements are intended to be binding throughout the marriage, circumstances may arise where one or both parties desire to revoke or modify the agreement.

For one, revoking a prenup requires that both people agree to “cancel” the agreement. This is typically done through executing a new document that explicitly states that their intention is to revoke the original agreement. This document should follow the requirements laid out by the state. For example, some states have specific requirements for a revocation, like getting it notarized or having it witnessed. 

It’s crucial to consult with a family law attorney who is knowledgeable about the regulations in your state to ensure that you fulfill all the necessary requirements for a valid revocation.


If your partner is not keen on revoking the entire agreement, but will agree to changing/canceling some terms, then an amendment may be your best bet (as long as they’re allowed in your state). This approach offers some flexibility by allowing you to make targeted changes while keeping the main structure of the original agreement intact.

So, how does it work? Well, an amendment involves creating a fresh document that references the original prenup and clearly spells out the modifications you both agree upon. It’s like adding a new chapter to your agreement that outlines the updates you want to make.

To ensure everything is done properly and meets the legal requirements in your area, it’s vital to team up with a family law attorney. They’ll walk you through the process of drafting the amendment, making sure it includes a clear explanation of the specific sections or terms you want to modify or cancel.

The beauty of an amendment is that it allows you to customize your prenuptial agreement to fit your current situation, goals, and needs, all without scrapping the entire thing. It strikes a perfect balance by preserving the core structure of the prenup while addressing the specific changes that have come up along the way.

Challenging a Prenup

What are some of the grounds that you can challenge a prenup under? 

  • Improper drafting: If the agreement contains ambiguous or unclear terms, it may be deemed unenforceable.
  • Lack of formalities: If the state you are in requires things like notarization and witnesses, and there is a lack thereof, then it may be thrown out. 
  • Unconscionability: If the terms of the agreement are grossly unfair or disproportionately favor one party, a court may throw out the agreement.
  • Non-disclosure: If one party fails to properly disclose their assets, debts, or income, it can undermine the validity of the agreement.
  • Duress or fraud: If one party was coerced or misled into signing the agreement, a court may find it unenforceable.

Can I Get Out Of My Prenup If I Change My Mind?


Consulting with a family law attorney

If you’re thinking about changing or canceling a prenuptial agreement, it’s really important to reach out to a knowledgeable family law attorney for guidance. They can take a close look at your situation, give you advice on what you can do, and assist you through all the legal stuff involved.

The attorney will carefully evaluate your unique circumstances and explain the available options for modifying or revoking the prenup. They have the expertise to guide you through the complex legal processes and make sure you understand everything along the way.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) about canceling my prenup

Q: Can I get out of my prenup if I change my mind?

A: You can always change your mind, but in order to revoke or amend a prenup, you’ll need to get your partner on the same page. You cannot just decide one day that you don’t want the prenup anymore and scrap it, without discussing it with your spouse. Both of you have to be in agreement to throw out or change the agreement. 


Q: Can’t I challenge the prenup and effectively “cancel” it?
A: Yes, you can challenge the prenup during a divorce and, if the judge says so, it can be thrown out. But be warned: it’s easier said than done. First off, you need to have grounds to challenge the agreement. Second, you need to pay an attorney to file this claim and argue it on your behalf. Third, the judge needs to actually take your side! They can very well decide that the prenup is valid and hold it up, even after all that money and time you spent challenging it. 


Q: Can I modify the terms of my prenuptial agreement after marriage?

A: Yes, most states allow for an amendment of a prenup, but only if you follow the requirements laid out by state law and both spouses agree to the changes. Consulting with a family law attorney is recommended to ensure the modified agreement meets legal requirements.


The bottom line is if you’re considering getting out of your prenup or wondering if it’s even possible, well, there are options available, but they come with conditions. The first option is revocation, which requires both you and your spouse to agree on canceling the prenup. Another option is an amendment, allowing you to modify specific terms while keeping the overall agreement intact. Lastly, challenging the prenup during a divorce is possible but can be a costly and uncertain process.

To navigate any of these options, it’s crucial to seek guidance from a compassionate family law attorney who specializes in prenuptial agreements. They can provide you with personalized advice, evaluate your unique situation, and guide you through the necessary legal steps. Remember, canceling a prenup is a significant choice, so take the time to communicate openly with your spouse and seek professional support to make well-informed decisions about your prenuptial agreement.

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