If you’ve been struggling in the dating world, chances are you’re feeling pretty helpless. Today, finding a partner to spend your life with seems far more complicated than in past generations. Ask your parents or grandparents how they met their spouse. Most likely, it wasn’t through Tinder or Hinge. They probably met organically, through school, work, or parties.
In 2022, dating is simply not the same. Finding successful love may not be as easy, but this doesn’t mean it’s impossible. If you’re stuck in the same old rut, we feel your frustration. No matter what your age, online dating and dating apps come with a unique set of challenges.
Tired and losing hope? Check out some new tips and insights below to help rejuvenate your approach to dating online.
Be Open to Finding Love Anywhere
Although there’s a much bigger acceptance surrounding dating apps than when they first debuted, many people still feel embarrassed about using these apps. In turn, this can hold you back. Love can find you anywhere, but you have to be open to it. While it’s possible to find in organic ways, as it did in the 80s, your chances are better if you go with the flow rather than against it.
People often have stigmas around dating apps, implying they’re only good for one-night stands. Truth is, while you may find some of that, you’re also closing your world off to people looking for serious relationships like you. Therefore, staying off dating apps is just closing your world off from numerous open doors. If you really want to have the best chances of finding your future partner, consider a few dating apps. If it’s not for you, at least you can say you tried.
If you’re introverted, online dating can be hard. However, check out these tips for dating when you’re introverted to get you on the right path.
Read The Bios Thoroughly
When you find a new profile, read the bio thoroughly. People who are serious about dating are going to take the time to highlight themselves in a positive light. If something sounds off, don’t waste your time. But if their bio sounds remotely interesting, don’t write them off. Pictures do not always do people justice. Being too critical based on someone’s profile picture can hold back your opportunities.
While we’re on the topic of bios, consider yours. Writing a memorable bio makes you stand out amongst many fishes in the sea. People swiping on your profile are swiping through hundreds of profiles, so it’s important to make yourself stand out. Be positive and creative instead of writing a generic few lines. It can be difficult to find the right words to describe yourself. Give it time and attention because at the end of the day, your bio matters!
Find Inner Patience & Be Positive
Too often, online daters give up after a few failed attempts. Awkward dates can be a major turn-off, making you not want to try again. However, finding a good partner on dating apps takes time and patience. While some people may get lucky on their first few tries, others may need to find patience as they continue to search for their other half. Giving up too soon is sure to close off your possibilities. Instead of giving up, adopt a better system to weed out bad picks before you go on a date. This could be setting up FaceTime calls to talk before going out, spending more time reading their bio, talking about interests in advance, or anything else that helps you learn more about someone.
If you’ve had a bad couple of dates through your online profile, don’t let your mood affect your future dates. Your date can pick up on that negative energy, giving them a bad first impression. The last thing you want to talk about on your new date is about how bad your other failed attempts were. Focus the conversation of the first date on getting to know each other, and skip the story time. While it’s important to be yourself entirely, aiming to be positive is going to attract the type of partner you’re looking for.
Know Your Non-Negotiables
While online dating may seem like it’s all about finding a good partner, it’s also about finding yourself. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, enter online dating with already-established non-negotiables. What this means is that you already know what things you will not compromise on, and what things you might be more flexible about. This will help you spend less time wasted on people who do not fit your needs, and more time exploring other possibilities out there.
Non-negotiables should be focused around your primary core values. When we say “non-negotiables” we don’t mean that your date must be over 6 feet or love basketball. Closing people off based on small factors like that will close the door to potentially good matches. Instead, we mean to focus your attention on non-negotiable things that are of deep value to you. For example, perhaps you’re a devout Christian, and feel strongly that your match will be of the same religious faith. Or, maybe you feel strongly that a person values exercise and a healthy lifestyle.
Choose the Right Dating App or Website
Your chances for success are higher when you select a dating app or website of higher quality. This will help you save wasted time on people who are not looking for the same thing as you. Look through all of the dating apps or websites to find one that matches your needs. If you’re looking for a long-term, serious relationship, steer clear of apps that are known for hook ups or one night stands.
While dating apps that are free are definitely an option, you may find a higher selection on paid apps. If someone pays for a dating app subscription, chances are they’re pretty serious about finding a match. Do some research to find out what type of people are really on various websites and dating apps.
Here’s a quick rundown: Tinder is most popular for hookups, on Bumble women make the first move, and on Hinge there’s a more extensive profile building process to get more quality interactions.
Don’t Give Up Hope
Though you may feel like you’re at a standstill, your other half is waiting for you somewhere out there. Things have a way of working out in ways we cannot foresee, at times we least expect them. Keep these tips to finding a good partner on dating apps in your pocket as you continue to navigate the difficult dating world.
Take time to appreciate this stage in your life as you date. One day, you’ll look back and be grateful for the time and effort that brought you to your partner. Off to scrolling! While you’re at it, be sure to read more about online dating safety.
Julia Rodgers is HelloPrenup’s CEO and Co-Founder. She is a Massachusetts family law attorney and true believer in the value of prenuptial agreements. HelloPrenup was created with the goal of automating the prenup process, making it more collaborative, time efficient and cost effective. Julia believes that a healthy marriage is one in which couples can openly communicate about finances and life goals. You can read more about us here Questions? Reach out to Julia directly at [email protected].